Hey! It’s Becca, and here’s something that’s on my heart right now.
It happened again.
We’d been friends for a few years, but over the last few months things felt different. Inside jokes abounded, conversations lasted for hours, goodbye hugs lingered a little too long. Before I knew it, I was falling fast.
And he didn’t feel the same way.
Friends, heart breaks can be, well, heartbreaking. I think it’s very natural for us as humans, stamped with God’s image, to crave love and approval from others. And it hurts when we don’t get that affirmation, especially from that special someone.
I could write about how you should guard your heart to protect yourself from heartbreak. But honestly, that would come across as insincere and hypocritical, since that’s something I struggle with every day. Additionally, I’m not convinced that heartbreak can be avoidable. Even if you put your heart and faith in God’s hands, you can and will still be hurt by others. So what are you going to do when that happens? How do you respond when you’re brokenhearted? Over the last four years, I’ve had my share of heartbreaks. And here’s some of the best ways to respond.
Get off the couch
You’ll feel miserable if you sit around eating ice cream and watching the newest episodes of Jane the Virgin all day. (Guilty as charged.) So find ways to engage your mind, body, and spirit. Go on a walk, read that newest book you’ve wanted to read (I recommend Uninvted by Lysa TerKeurst), catch up with some friends, play an instrument, draw a picture, or just go do something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the time to. These things might seem to be simply distractions from the pain, but sometimes healthy distractions will help you realize that maybe life isn’t all that bad and you can still find joy in the sorrow.
Find your friends
While you should never put your trust solely in people, God created man with a longing for community. We’re meant to seek out friendships and to spur one another in our relationships with Christ. As Ecclesiastes says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 ESV)
We have been given one another to help each other when we fall. So when you’re hurting, you can and should go to the friends God has given you. But they shouldn’t be your primary source of comfort.
Run to the Father’s embrace
Friends, there’s only one Love that will never break your heart. You might be rejected by every person in your life: the boy you like, your best friend, and, in some cases, even your family. But God will never leave or forsake you. His perfect and unending love will be there to comfort you. No matter how big or small your struggles might be, God will be there to listen. As the psalmist writes, “You have kept count of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle. Are they not in your book?” (Psalm 56:8, ESV) He notices every time you cry. And He’s there to help.
You might be hurting now. But I promise you, it will get better. Don’t let your sorrow overshadow the beauty of creation, the love of your friends, and the grace of Christ.
Becca Samelson (@beccsgrace) is a writer and managing editor at thegracescripts.com. She is a senior at Patrick Henry College. She loves cooking shows + debating + coffee. She lives in Virginia.